The Quest for Thought

Is there a way you can control how people hurt you, or how you hurt people? The answer to both these questions is yes.

Not hurting others is easy, just think before speaking and doing anything, and have empathy.

The difficult one is however, to control the hurt which people give you. The answer: call people out on their shit, maintain boundaries, and do not have any expectations from them.

It is easier said than done, but once you start doing these things, you realize your value and how much your life has improved sans the negativity.

It is all about putting yourself first and doing things that make you happy (no, hurting someone does not count). The world is a selfish place and thinking about yourself is now a mandate even if it goes against your basic nature.

There are times when I still fall back to the same patterns and put myself second, but then I sit for sometime and see if there are ways I can be there for the other person, without putting myself second.

Let’s just say there is a long way to go in this journey of finding and understanding myself.